Last week I received a call from a very hesitant woman. She had been widowed for fours years. She came across my website and her health has been a concern since she has been experiencing no energy, a lack of motivation and direction. She began the conversation with “I should be able to do this by myself but, I’m good for a few days but then I lose my momentum”. She spoke of having no one to share her small accomplishments with. “When I eat healthfully and I’m proud that I stayed away from unhealthy foods, or actually went out for a walk, there’s no one to tell, no one to say a job well done”. First we rephrased her statement to “what’s right with me!”
You have supported and praised your children and your spouses/partners and now you may actually need someone to cheer you on or encourage you when you bring yourself from down in the dumps, to actually getting out to walk or cooking a healthy meal, huge steps some days. We are social creatures and we all do need support and encouragement. Needing help is not failure, it’s human and normal. There are just down days on this journey through grief and encouragement is something everyone needs. You are on the road to discovering your new self after loss.
Find a buddy, join a group reach out for someone to be a cheerleader in your camp.