“The negative emotional charge is our human condition. It can be described as an energy field of life force that is contracted; held as unprocessed traumatic experiences, negative beliefs about ourselves and others, suffocation, fear and any emotion that is a derivation of fear such as guilt, grief, shame, embarrassment, resentment, anger, etc. We refer to the negative emotional charge’s collective energy field as the Pain Body. When the negative emotional charge becomes disproportionally higher than the positive emotional charge, this leads to massive dysfunction in the human body-mind system.”
According to the late Dr. Candice Pert, “repressing emotions can only be causative of disease. Failure to find effective ways to express negative emotions causes you to ‘stew in your own juices’. Day after day, this chronic immersion in negativity is what appears to produce harmful influences on health. The chemicals that are running our body and our brain are the same chemicals that are involved in emotion. And that says to me that . . . we’d better pay more attention to emotions with respect to health.”
Most of us have heard some rendition of “change your thoughts, change your life”. Well, it turns out there is a great deal of wisdom in those words. Even in the presence of the most pristine diets and regular exercise, if the negative thoughts and emotions outweigh the positive ones, nutrients will not be assimilated no matter how healthy your diet.
We need to open up our minds to allow the space for positive thoughts. How do we do that when we still suffer the pain of loss? We process our grief, not suppress it. By definition, a process is continuous action, a series of changes. Not staying stuck in one place. Easier said then done, I know. It took me six years after Joe’s death to come to the realization that I was continuing to hold on to the feelings of grief because I had no idea of what else to do. Time was not healing my wound.
What process have you begun that has helped to heal your broken heart?